*~ …Letting go… ~*

We have all heard the term: “Let go, Let God.”

We have been told to just “Surrender” and “Go with the Flow” but what does that really mean?  Many of my clients have spoken to me about the need to maintain this flow of letting go as things keep coming up.  They say ‘”There is always more to let go of! When does it end?!”

I completely understand their frustration.  The trick is detecting the source of the creation of the things that come at us.  When we get to the root of that we can truly surrender and really let go.

An example of this is a recurring pattern in my life where I have been faced with the same test over and over again.  My “Saturnian” tests, shall I say, have been numerous and layered throughout my life starting in my teens and carrying through into my 40’s.

I recently was faced with this pattern again during a recent confrontation with an elder.  It has empowered me to realize that the most important things to let go of are our expectations.

Being really clear on what we are expecting from others frees us.  In having no expectations, we are ultimately free.

Having expectations is like a prison we place ourselves in.  It closes the energetic field down and limits the space for miracles.  Thinking and ego play a big part in expectations.

A few years ago, I was stopped on the way out of a store by an old Indian man.  He said this same thing to me.  He asked me if I knew how to live a happy life.  I said no and listened.  He said “Don’t have any expectations!  If you do your best every time then you have done all you can do.”  He said “You can’t be disappointed if you have done your best!”

It was a very simple message but straight to the point. 

I cannot change other people.  I can only change myself.  The inner work is the only thing that matters…Integrity, honesty, self-respect and self-love. 

That’s not to say be selfish.  Service is the prime honor in life.  Being there for people who are open to receive and ready to do the tough inner work is our highest calling.  Giving is for giving…

Another lesson I received around this came from a very good friend who was in the ICU for 4 months.  When he came out he said to me: “Janice, don’t get into confrontation.  Life is too short.  Move around them, do not interact with people who try to rip you off.  Just go around them and move on.  Life is too precious.”

I hear these elders.  I also see elders who are very stuck and afraid to shift to a higher paradigm. They are so comfortable in their fear that a bulldozer won’t even budge them.  It has been home for so long that is all they know.  Their reality has become too real.

Patterns can be broken.  We all live in our own created environments, but we also all live in one environment on earth…Home vs. home.

We must, and it is imperative at this time more than any other before, fall home to that deep place where we know that we are held in the highest regard by the Creator.

This is the only place to reach a complete letting go of expectations… To KNOW that in light we are HELD and that we are all connected no matter what our ego plays out for us or others do around us… To become so smooth that nothing sticks and we merely can move through the fields of conflicting energy like a fish in water sleek and sliding through the river of life.

Letting go… the great paradigm of movement; moving through mindful of our ability to release as much as we are tempted to hold on…

Be at peace…

Namaste ~*~

Janzee

On …~~~Anxiety… ~*

Anxiety rattles us all at one time or another.  Be it the transition of moving, children changing schools, divorce, new babies or just plain daily chores that need to get done.

I suffer with the rest… Just leaving the house is a challenge sometimes.  Making sure everything is ‘together’ for the day before we depart the premises is a challenging ordeal especially with children.

The one common denominator I have found in regards to Anxiety is speed.  My body cannot move as fast as my mind tells it to.  My head races and my body tries its best to follow suit.  

This 3D world is not set up for human flight.  We are Spiritual Beings having a Human experience.

It is imperative that we stay grounded and earthly.  

I have witnessed others in Anxiety and I myself have experienced it first hand, very recently to be honest.  It is racked with overwhelm and the need to complete things before they are even thought of.  This state of mind and body is not a healthy state.  It is in fact our adrenals which have kicked in and are speeding us up as if we are fleeing a wooly mammoth on the playa.  It is a fight or flight response present in the old reptilian part of our brain.

Common sense would have us reset.

The trick is to notice this WHILE we are in Anxiety.  To consciously agree and reset our thinking first to really make that concerted effort to CALM DOWN feels really impossible.  

This morning after 2 days of anxious running of the monkey mind, I decided to just STOP.  

My angels, guides, higher mind or whoever/whatever you want to call it reset me.  And I am grateful.  I feel better today and feel like I can take on things piecemeal.  

There is a ton of energy being released from our sun in the form of huge solar flares this week and we have to assimilate this new light into our DNA.  We are doing this and it is our choice whether it is easy or painful.  We can surrender to the flow or we can resist it.  Resistance really is futile, because at some point the river will push and then we will have to let go.  It is easier to just allow the flow.

All this was said to me yesterday by my very wise mother, but only today has the wisdom sunk in!   I am grateful I am receptive enough to pull back.

Another lesson in this Anxiety 101 is that the example I set is paramount.  I am responsible for emitting calm energy to my child. More importantly,  I am responsible for demonstrating the ability to shift from one state of mind to another.  It is very important that she sees me being capable of shifting my mindset from one of disturb to one of calm.   In this, she will learn how to self-regulate her own dynamic.  This is one of the greatest gifts I can give my child – the gift of owning her own power.

In anxiety, my mind is a slave driver.  The mind needs to be shackled and fed chocolate chip cookies and milk until it calms [expletive] down.

Psychologists and psychiatrists have detailed explanations for the chemical reactions which happen when the mind is ruling the body and everything’s on overload – Anxiety.  They prescribe medications for people with PTSD who have suffered repeated anxiety from varying incidents ranging from high to low.  

That is one solution – medication.  But a much more effective and long lasting solution is Meditation.  In stilling the mind, the body can reset and everything comes into focus - taking that reset energy into daily living is the challenge.  

[Sometimes in extreme cases, deeper healing on the Spiritual level can be helpful to long lasting solutions.]

Life throws curveballs.

The important thing to know when facing anxiety is that if I calm down…

-         ~ Things will get done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

If I go too fast – faster than my body can handle – everything goes haywire and nothing gets done.  I have experienced spills, bumps, inability to grab things – things just out of reach as if I am a ghost, not in my body because I am not in my body - I am in my head.

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~   ~ I need to calm down on purpose.

·         ~ Everything will get done.

·         ~ Breathing is the key.

·        ~ Overwhelm is a red flag.

~ I can choose to stop so I can center, ground, prioritize then act.

Grounding centering exercise:

Close your eyes and take 3 long slow deep breaths sending a grounding chord down to the center of the Earth.  Draw up earth energy so you are connected to Gaia.  Breathe this energy up and down slowly until you feel settled.

You can say these words when you feel grounded:

Ø ~ I am on Earth

Ø ~ I am human and mortal

Ø ~ I have no magic powers on this 3D plane

Ø ~ Only in meditation can I center correctly and see what needs to be done first and foremost.

Ø ~ Then and only then can I START

I hope this helps you as it did me.

Yesterday I had 5 major life changing things going on at the same time and it was so overwhelming I could hardly breathe.  Today feels better.  I am much more settled and centered.  Breathing and meditating does wonders.  We have to watch our minds as they can run amok and take us with them without invitation.

Center and breathe… I AM

Namaste ~*~

Janzee